I consider myself a Gay-Black-Male. And I BELIEVE I was born gay just as much as I KNOW I was born black. I'll try to explain a little about my views and experiences on both.

I am one of those people that has always known "something was different" about me. I have never found myself sexually attracted to women. I didn't just wake up one morning and come to the realization that I was gay. I have been gay for as long as I remember. I recently came out to my family and it went surprisingly well. It also helps to have a strong support system. I have plenty of friends that have been there for me and have helped me through the hard times and I am more thankful for them than they could ever believe. If you were to ask me what it means to be gay.. I would probably answer by telling you what it is not: It's not wanting to be woman; it's not about being weak and effeminant; it's not all about queening and being bitchy. I just happen to find men sexually attractive. Don't get me wrong now! Queening and bitchiness can be fun. .. but its not what its all about. I don't try to put on airs. I am not butch in one situation and femmie in another. I am me. What you see is what you get.. If you don't like it.. Your loss.. STEP ASIDE! **SNAP** (Momentary lapse into Queeniness!) I don't ask anyone to approve of what I do.. I only have to answer to myself and the Man (or Woman) upstairs. I just ask that you accept it and get over it and carry on as normal. As far as relationships go, I am looking for a person that I can connect with mentally as well as physically and emotionally. I usually look for someone that is a little different from myself. That keeps things interesting. I like a person that likes to talk and isn't afraid to stand up for themselves or thier views. I am very opinionated and I love to debate! :-) I have a thirst for mental stimulation!!! Physical, too! (GRIN) I tend to be very giving of myself in a relationship, but, I know how to say NO. Age and race are not really a factor. If we get along...we'll see what happens. Well I think I have said enough, but if you want to know more, just Email me. My life is an open book!

I grew up in Arlington, VA in a mostly Black neighborhood until I was in the fifth grade. I was bussed to a predominantly White school. While in VA I had a lot of friends of different races. I never even thought about it. Once back in my neighborhood, I was teased constantly by my Black friends because I talked "White" and because I was a good student. I always just shrugged it off. When I moved back to DC in the fifth grade, it got worse. I never fit in with the kids in my school. I was more about studying and reading while they were more aboout playing basketball and causing trouble. People were always telling me I wasn't Black. I would look at myself in the mirrror and think "If I'm not Black then what the heck am I?" One funny incident was my first time in class when I started school in DC. The class was told to sing the national anthem. I guess in my excitement I didn't hear the teacher say "the BLACK National Anthem." I started singing "My country tis of the..." at thetop of my lungs while the rest of the class sung "Lift ev'ry voice and sing...." The whole class stopped and looked at me! Including the teacher. Let me tell you! I learned the Black National Anthem that night and was ready the next day! I vowed that would never happen again! That incident really got me interested in my heritage and Black History and also finding out what it meant to be Black. Unfortunately there are too many negative stereotypes about Blacks and we are still trying to break through them. I think we as a people have to take the first step to dispel the misbeliefs. I am not very militant at all. But I get my point accross. I do not like racist comments: "You people"; "You all look alike";any sentence that begins "Is it true what they say about Black people?..." I usually give a person 2 chances to say something like that. I politely inform them that its offensive and the matter is dropped. Do it a third time and you will get the full brunt of it. (HEY! I'm a fair person!) I just ask to be treated with the same respect I give you. I will never call a person a name or assume things because of where they are from or because of their parentage. I could go on and on but I think I got my point accross. If you want to discuss it further, just Email me! :-)